Today I will be doing the witness. I have been thinking a lot about how God is working in my life and the life of my family. I often tell people to be specific about what they want. I think the more we know what we want the more likely we are to achieve it. The more specific we are with our prayers, the more likely we are to recognize and give God the glory when our prayers are answered. If we pray that things get better, how will we know when that prayer has been answered? It might get better in some ways and not in others and so we might be constantly waiting for God to answer that prayer. However, if we ask for something specific, like please help my son get a job. Then you know exactly when God has answered that prayer and you can give God all the glory. In 2021 I decided to come up with a specific prayer for our family. This way, I would know when the prayers had been answered. A thought just popped into my head so I want to clarify something. I do not think that we need to direct God or tell Him what to do or how to solve our problems. Being specific in our prayers is not about that. God is free to answer our prayers in any way He sees fit as He knows best. The idea of being specific with our prayers is that we can be more intentional with noticing when prayers are answered and therefore more intentional with our praise and giving God all the glory. I hope that makes sense. I decided to go back and look at the specific family prayers I had written in the past few years. I will not read them all to you because some of the stuff may be a bit personal for the boys. However, will share with you the parts that have been answered. We have all seen God working in our lives. However, we might not all be aware it is God working in our lives. This is why it is so important we start talking about it more. The more we share our experiences, the more people understand how God works and how much He truly loves us. If you would be willing to share any experience of how God has worked or is working in your life, please email me at catherine@findingtruenorthcoaching.com or click here. It won’t take up much of your time, and your story could be just the story that someone needs to hear today. Prayerfully consider sharing. Everyone has a story, and the world needs to hear them. Music: "Adding the Sun" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Today I will be doing the witness. I have been thinking a lot about how God is working in my life and the life of my family. I often tell people to be specific about what they want. I think the more we know what we want the more likely we are to achieve it. The more specific we are with our prayers, the more likely we are to recognize and give God the glory when our prayers are answered. If we pray that things get better, how will we know when that prayer has been answered? It might get better in some ways and not in others and so we might be constantly waiting for God to answer that prayer. However, if we ask for something specific, like please help my son get a job. Then you know exactly when God has answered that prayer and you can give God all the glory.
In 2021 I decided to come up with a specific prayer for our family. This way, I would know when the prayers had been answered. A thought just popped into my head so I want to clarify something. I do not think that we need to direct God or tell Him what to do or how to solve our problems. Being specific in our prayers is not about that. God is free to answer our prayers in any way He sees fit as He knows best. The idea of being specific with our prayers is that we can be more intentional with noticing when prayers are answered and therefore more intentional with our praise and giving God all the glory. I hope that makes sense.
I decided to go back and look at the specific family prayers I had written in the past few years. I will not read them all to you because some of the stuff may be a bit personal for the boys. However, will share with you the parts that have been answered. First, we can look at a prayer I wrote in 2021. I asked the Lord that each of our boys do well in school that year, as they haven’t always in the past, and they did! We were asking for the Lord to line up next steps for Sam for when he came home from Cushing house. We weren’t sure what he needed or how we could set him up for success so we didn’t ask for anything specific but we did ask for God to open a door for Sam. Before he even left Cushing House he had a job interview with Target and he started the next week after he moved back home.
For Noah, we asked that he get out of the house more and experience more of the good things that High School has to offer. Noah ended up getting a job that he really liked and started hanging out with a good group of friends. Mostly, they would play online, but there were a few from our town, and so they would get together and do things, especially after they got their licenses.
For Ryan, we asked that he be able to transition out of the Lighthouse school, as that was something he had expressed interest in. However, it wasn’t really that motivated to go back in 2021. In 2024, Ryan transitioned out of the Lighthouse School and back into the Groton Dunstable Regional School District. He will finish his last two years of school in our home district. He is very happy to be at that school. It is a lot bigger and was a bit overwhelming at first, but he has settled in and I think he really likes it.
We asked for the Lord to give our kids more confidence to venture out and try new things. Noah ended up applying to colleges that were abroad and is currently attending Napier Edinburgh University in Scotland. I am sure that took a lot of confidence not only to apply there but to move to another country for college. Ryan started boxing, which he had no previous experience in, and also got a job at Chick-fil-A. Sam is constantly filling in for people in different areas of Target, even if he was not trained in that area. He does what he is asked to do, even if it is new to him. Sam also started a new day program even though he was nervous and didn’t know what to expect. I would say we can give God the glory for answering their prayer of giving the kids more confidence.
For Tony and me, we prayed that God would help us to become the parents he created us to be and that our relationship with the boys would grow with love and respect. I believe God is in the process of answering this one. I don’t think we will ever arrive at being perfect parents. I believe we will continue to grow and get better at it our whole lives. I believe God is helping us figure it out in this season. We have learned to lean into one another, instead of away from one another. We have learned to pray together when we aren’t sure what to do. We have learned to communicate more respectfully with each other and with the boys. My relationship with the boys has definitely grown in love and respect. We communicate much better now and we seem to have much more of a mutual respect than we did before. I make sure to give the boys, at least the ones who are at home, a hug before they go to bed at night. If they are not home, I make sure to send them a text message letting them know that I love them.
Last summer, August 2024, I decided to write a new prayer when I looked back and saw that most of our prayers from the first prayer had been answered. I want to also stop and be fully transparent with you. Because some of you might be saying to yourself that these prayers were answered because I am different in some way. I am not any more special than any of you. I promise you God is answering your prayers too. The reason I am seeing the answers more is because I wrote down specifically what I wanted, and so it is easy to see if it was answered or not. Also, I probably prayed this prayer every day for a week or two. That is usually my level of consistency, although it might have been less. I am sure it was not more. Then I might have prayed it every now and then if I happened to see it or remember it.
I did not pray this prayer consistently from 2021-2024. I would be shocked if I even prayed it for 30 days total. I tell you this because sometimes we can hear people say that they did something, and we can think they did it perfectly or that they were so much more consistent. Consistency is great, and also, God can answer your prayer even if you only ask Him once. So don’t get caught up in your failure to be consistent or your inability to write an eloquent prayer. My prayer was not eloquent, and I definitely wasn’t consistent saying it, yet it was answered. Yours will be too!
Back to 2024. I decided we should write a new prayer as our last prayer had worked out pretty well. Not everything was answered, and some answers we received were not the way or how we wanted them to be, but it was time to update our prayer. In this new prayer, we asked that Sam would form meaningful friendships with positive individuals who serve as good role models. He now has a best friend, and although I don’t know all that they do, I do know he is encouraging Sam not to drink, and that is great! The other things we were praying for are still in the works. However, one thing was that he would be able to quit smoking. I don’t know if he has quit for the long term or not, but there is no smoking where he is. So, for the next 45 days or so, he has quit smoking and vaping all things. These are all prayers answered!
For Noah, we prayed he had an amazing time at Edinburgh Napier University. We prayed his roommates all got along and became good friends. We prayed there was no ill will or strife with any of them. We prayed he met amazing friends and stepped out with courage to try new things on his own. We prayed he would have the opportunity to travel and see many different places. Noah did get along with his roommates, and as far as I know, there was no strife. They did go out and do stuff together as well as hang out in the loft. I know he met friends while he was there who were not his flatmates. Noah had the courage to walk all around the city and go on hikes in different parts of the city or surrounding cities. He learned how to take the bus anywhere he wanted to go in the city. He hopped on the train several times to go to concerts in Glasgow. He also got a membership to a rock climbing gym.
Noah did have the opportunity to travel and see different places. He flew by himself to Portugal to stay with friends of ours, and he explored their town and surrounding area on his own. That was a big step outside of his comfort zone. He also got to explore Copenhagen with dad and his grandmother. Then Tony flew back out a few weeks later to explore Norway with Noah. He also had some of his friends from high school fly over to visit him in Scotland. I would say all of our prayers for Noah were answered.
For Ryan, we prayed that he would meet great people in his new school and that he would meet good friends who live nearby whom he enjoys hanging out with. We prayed he either got back into boxing or found another hobby that he likes. We prayed he did well in his classes and that he is happy in life. Ryan is really enjoying being at his new school. He has met a group of kids that he really likes hanging out with. He has them over to our house often as we have a pool table and video games in the basement. He seems genuinely happy with life right now.
Two of his friends have a band, and they have invited Ryan to be a part of it. This is his new hobby. It is a metal band, so he practices singing all the time and is hoping to start voice lessons very soon. He has started writing lyrics and is so excited about this new hobby. I haven’t seen him this happy in a very long time. It is so nice to see him having fun with friends and to hear him laughing. It is so nice to see his eyes light up when he talks about his lyrics or shows me a video of him practicing to do the metal screams. Our prayers for Ryan have all pretty much been answered as well.
Tony and I prayed that we have more quality time together. We prayed we continued to grow closer to the Lord and closer to each other. We prayed we would continue to love each other more and more each day. We prayed that God helped us to understand each other better and that we would respect and support each other more. We are not perfect at this, but we are in such a good place right now. I am so happy, and I do feel we are growing closer to each other each day. I am so grateful that the Lord brought Tony into my life 27 years ago and that we just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Like any relationship, we have had ups and downs, but I am so grateful the Lord helped us stay together through those hard times and get to where we are today!
I hope after listening to this witness you sit down and take some time to write a prayer for yourself, your family, or your friends. I pray that you take some time to think about exactly what you want from the Lord this year. Where do you want to be this time next year? Where do you want your family to be this time next year? The Lord doesn’t mind when we ask for specific things. That is the best way to make sure He gets all the glory!! It is not telling God what to do; it is just asking for what you want, and like any parent, He can say no if that is not what is best for you. I love all of you listening, and I know the Lord will answer your prayers just as he has done with mine. I would love to hear about any answers to prayer that you have received. Feel free to email me at catherine@findingtruenorthcoaching.com or reach out on Facebook, Catherine Duggan.